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YogaGypsy....
(hahaha! There's no telling where this may go. I'm a little scared.)
A student asks, “How can I not eat
three of those frosted sprinkle cookies at work today?” ~ Anonymous (you know who you are)
Craving a cookie is a normal thing,
right? A cookie is not a bad thing and our desire for a cookie is
not a bad thing. The cookie and the desire are both neutral. But we
tend to make the cookie not neutral by giving it a past and a future.
It goes like this, we think of how good the last cookie we had was
(or wasn't). If it was good, we want another one. If it wasn't
good, we need to make up for our last cookie experience. So we meet
our cookie in the past. This cookie has a history and it is supposed
to do something for us. It is meant to create another moment of
happiness or make up for the disappointment of our last cookie
experience. The cookie is not neutral when we meet it and we are
attached to the story of what it is supposed to do for us.
The cookie, however, has no power to
bring us happiness or satisfaction....because it is NEUTRAL but we
don't know that because we are not meeting it in the Present
(ahem....Reality). And because we are not Present with the cookie,
we repeat with cookie two and cookie three. I heard that doing the
same thing over and over wanting different results is the definition
of INSANITY. Susan Powder, where are you now???
We do a similar thing with our desire
for the cookie. We make a story about how we should or should not
have it. We make the cookie some sort of reward or punishment and
the desire for the cookie somehow makes us good or bad. Judgment.
Ick!
JUDGE NOT THE COOKIE, NOR THE DESIRE
FOR THE COOKIE!!!
So, what's the antidote for thinking
our happiness is inextricably linked to cookies....??? Presence.
Presence brings awareness. The mental anxiety created by the cookie
is subconscious but with awareness comes CHOICE. If we are present,
we can see (be aware) of what's happening in our heads. Only then
can we choose to respond rather than be dragged by our craving
completely unawares and seemingly helpless to the first, second or
third cookie-of-good-and-evil.
I say in class all the time, “Your
breath is the quickest path to the Present moment.” I'm sure I
read that somewhere. Probably in 'The Power of Now' by Eckart Tolle.
It just means to connect, notice, be with what's right in front of
you. Do what you are doing instead of doing what you're not doing.
The only time we can be happy is right now. With or without a
cookie. The power of happiness is not in the cookie.
So, meet the cookie with no
expectation. Meet the cookie with no past or future. Meet the
cookie in it's natural, neutral state without giving it power it
doesn't have. Meet the cookie without judgment of your desire for
the cookie. Meet the cookie with enjoyment in the Present! Then
you'll find that happiness is Present with a cookie or without a
cookie. :)
Oh, and P.S. Go back and re-read this
and replace 'cookie' with another word, like 'relationship',
perhaps...it's a fun game!
and seriously, feel free to submit a question. we'll see what happens!
Namaste for now!
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